In fact, we only think we know what we want our children. We only think we know what is best for them. We know what is best based on the desires of our own selfishness. This is better – for ourselves, but not for children. And no wonder that kids do not want to follow our desires. If a child many years earlier was associated with parents, grandparents, experience wise, were the best of advice.

The family council was going not only on 'who to marry, what house to buy, to what college to go', but in order to decide whether teenage son to wear pants-pipes. Can you imagine that today? At best, the child listens to your opinions and make their own way. At worst – plucked to rudeness and losing confidence overgrown offspring, but will find accusation: 'You've ruined my whole life. " We're in a hurry to hang a label – indigo children. 'Bringing up the boy according to his ways' – say the Kabbalists.

But how do you know what is the way your child? He is sitting in front of you – a little in front of a bunch of the broken machines, or have a big, awkward with his eternal, 'Well, ma am, well, okay, I know. " It's not a child – because he was not inside vlezesh, and even if it seems that it is 'your', in fact – nothing similar. He – 'your own'. And you are just re-created in light of its protein coat, giving some of their genes, their cultural backgrounds and their love (if you could give him is love and not their selfish desire stuffy). If initially try to treat the child as an individual person, rather than as a property as a part of themselves and at the same time to myself, as a part of it (though for the mother, almost physically associated with the child, it is difficult), then may be easier to find exactly his way, in which he is seeking. It will be the protagonist of his life, and you – only an assistant. After all, by and large, we can give a child? Money, property, utility Singles – all of this, as experience shows, is valuable only to those who earned it himself. Upbringing and education – perhaps most important, but only if it will really help. Now if we could give child is the knowledge, weighed down by a diploma and an outlook, an outlook on life, which would help to choose the right environment, which provided for a child the right effect and it would have to correct actions and decisions. This feature actually 'kabbalistic education' – parents must give their child the correct outlook on life. What do you mean 'correct'? Tell how the world works and what is the meaning everyone's life. This is the most important thing that we can give our children, and then everything else in life too complicated – and family and work. The young man will not be rushing, trying to find out what the main thing, which dedicate their efforts and time. After so many mistakes could be avoided if you are able to separate the primary from the secondary. But in order for something to give, you need to own it to have. No wonder they say that the main caregiver for a parent – a child. So start with yourself? Baby food – made by man